Trasnsitions into Marriage

The transition into marriage can be hard on some or easy on some. There are compromises that are going to be made and things that you will have to work on with your spouse. Not everything is going to be easy. You have to get used to each other figure out both of you and how you work together. Bringing your stuff together and your two different backgrounds together may be hard but if you work together and figure out things together then you will be okay. Just need to remember that not everything is easy and fun and games. Marriage is work.

Preparing for Marriage

Preparing for marriage there is a lot of things you need to figure out going into it. You need to realize that isn't always going to be fun and games there are compromises that are going to be need to made. There are things you need to learn about before you start a marriage like where you are going to live and how things are going to be paid. I think the big thing is space and communication with each other. With out that you aren't really going to work well with each other. You both need you own lives as well as the lives you have built together.

Gender and Family Life

This week we have learned about Gender and Family life. It is crazy to think how both sides of the family can play such a huge roll. I have always considered myself as a “daddy’s girl” and been told that I am supposed to be a boy. I am interested in cars and interested in toys. That’s considered not that big of an issue. But then when you relate that to a boy liking more feminine things like crafts or being interested in what he looks like he is considered gay. But with girls it isn’t that big of a deal. We have a society have twisted so many things around and so many are not how they are supposed to be anymore. When we read about people being born gay I honestly do not believe that is possible. There is a reason why they think so but there is no way. When you are born onto this earth you are perfect. When you start to grow up you start liking different things then other people and start growing in different ways. If you think you are attracted to a boy and you are a boy think of the reasons why? Why do you think you have this attraction? What happened in your life to attract you to the same sex? Life is a crazy thing. Society has changed are point of view on things day in and day out. Things are constantly changing and we just listen. We never really think for ourselves any more.

Gender in the family plays a huge roll. If you are a girl growing up in a home without your father you are more likely to seek attention from a different man that you think loves you and will treat you right. That’s not always the case. Your father is a big part of your life and you need him there in order to feel a different type of love. I have grown up with both my parents and three sisters. When I step back and look at my family and my life from a different view I notice patterns. For example my youngest and oldest sister are more attached to my mom, than my sister and I are more attached to our dad. The two that are attached to my mom have more friends that are girls and get along with them easier. My sister and I have more guy friends and get along with them a whole lot easier. But then when you come in contact from the opposite sex you treat them with the same respect you treat your other friends. For example I have this one girl friend and I treat her like I treat my guy friends. In order to be more versatile in life we need to pay attention to all things and realize all the different types of relationships we can have in our lives.

Valid and Valuable

I believe that all cultures are valuable in their own way. Not everything they say and do can be completely correct or valid but I’m sure in every culture there is something that we can learn from. I don’t believe that it is all completely valid but I do think it is something that we can learn from and be a part of. We don’t need to turn our backs and think that we are always right and that we do everything correct because sometimes that is not the case. We always have things to learn from and things we can build on.